fact of life...

fact of life 1.

people's concern for you follows their interest in you. (i.e. stay cute and funny)

example.
people will follow Steve Jobs on twitter just to get the latest update.
some people couldn't care less if you join them for a party and yet they may interrogate another absentee until they get a satisfactory answer.

fact of life 2.

you are as good as your usefulness. (i.e. friendship is about making use of one another. companionship is the least someone would demand)

example.
people will knock on your door when they are broke, in need of moral support, in need of a favor or during examinations. Otherwise... they could not care less if you have important things to tell.

fact of life 3.

most of the time money and other practical things are more important. As for the other little occasions courtesy, chivalry, tact and reciprocation is quite important. (i.e. people are rational, demanding, selfish and practical creatures)

example.
need not say more. how many "thank you"s have you said today? how many "thank you"s have your received recently? I know my answer and I can count the answer to second one with one hand.

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On other stuff... I wish I can express my concern (that my friends should start putting serious effort into work) to my friends but I guess it is only normal to enjoy the moment. I have been through the same phase. Evidently, I fooled around too much and screwed up big time. I am no nerd but I have learn my lesson and I think results no matter how unimportant is not insignificant. It's sucks to see your friend way ahead of you in the rat race ten years down the road.

In a nutshell... you would not want to sacrifice future well-being, would you? Wait till you are in your mid life crisis then you will realize how some of your friends are so much better of than you.

.... just saying.